Back in the saddle again. A blog post with no challenge. Oh my life feels so empty.
So, back to the writings of mine and Kelly’s existence.
This week has been a hard week. I am not going to say why (At least not publicly, if you are nosey you can message me and I may tell you ) but it was very unsettling and difficult. You get those.
Men, I feel being men, always need to find a solution to the problem. Most often they come in and try and save the day. Women, as a generalised rule, just want to vent or cry and then do one of two things:
- Find a solution.
- Pretend it never happened.
If Kelly and I have a tiff, often it will end up with me saying “GAH! Why must you always try and fix the problem when all I want to do is cry and have a cuddle?!”
He will say “Not everything is fixed with a cuddle!”
And here again is the difference between males and females.
SURE! He may very well be right (As if I would tell him this ) but for all intensive purposes he isn’t! I’m a girl and it is my prerogative to make unreasonable requests in moments of high pressure.
So, this week when things started going a bit haywire, I was waiting for the usual response of Kelly trying to be Mr Fix It (Trust me, it isn’t a bad trait, it is quite endearing, it only annoys me when I want to be right! )
On Wednesday night he went out drinking with my Dad and big brother and came home, as he said, three sheets to the wind. Now… I LOVE LOVE LOVE Kelly drunk, for reasons I probably shouldn’t say here He woke me up to have a d & m. I was waiting for him to go into all the reasons to fix things… but he didn’t. He cuddled me, he listened, he held my hand. Sure, he had his input and his view on things which was so contructive and helpful.
Then last night, when I was feeling at my absolute worst, he put the kidlets in bed then he came and sat on the couch. He pulled me up against him, I rested my head in his lap with a blanket over me. He stroked my back and hair, gave me more kisses than I could count and did so until I fell asleep.
Today, I felt a lot more relaxed and content and less worried about all the things that had happened or all the things that might.
So, the point here is. I WAS RIGHT! A cuddle really is all I needed to fix this problem