I was raised in a household of communication. If there was a problem, we talked about it. It may not have been the ideal Brady Bunch stylised version of a conflict resolution but it was put out on the table and sorted.
So whenever there was an issue, I confronted it head on (Like a bull) and tried to get it all sorted. Sorted yesterday you might say. One thing I have learnt as I have gotten older is sometimes it is best just to say nothing and move on.
I don’t actually agree with this theory though. To me, if you have a problem, you need to work it out. I think all too often these days people take things to the internet to vent, or do it through text messages. You never know someone’s tone and what they are trying to convey.
I’ve always tried to stand by my method in giving someone a phone call if there is a problem, or going to visit them to sort it out. I have made it my pact never to rubbish somebody on the internet or to slander them. It isn’t me, it isn’t my style and, truthfully, even if I did have an issue with someone, it seldom is discussed at home. I have made it my mission lately to step away from drama quietly, than to throw myself into it. That is why here you will never see anything of that kind of nature, nor on my facebook. (I don’t use Twitter).
This post today, in the context, is meant to be heartfelt.
I am going to say this. Most of you who know my honey and myself know that we don’t have a blooming relationship with his family. Specifically one person. This is through no choice of mine or his. Once upon a time we were close and I would have done anything for them, and I still would today if they reached out.
I, over the last 18 months or so, have been put into question about so many things which, to this day, I do not understand. I have heard stories that have been told about me (And him) that are just so untrue. I desperately want a relationship with them as I am so family oriented. I believe highly in families sticking together and being there for each other.
I would like Kelly to have a relationship with them (Though he has stressed to me many times that we are a package, so it is all of us or none of us).
I am always going to hurt about this whilst it is unresolved, but each and every day I am learning acceptance. I kind of felt for a long time that one of my best friends was robbed from me in an instant with no explanation.
I am, at the heart of things, very unassuming. I would give the clothes off of my back to help people and I ask very little in return. I love Kelly very much and would never do anything intentionally to hurt him.
Apparently at the route of all this is a psychic who said “A woman would come into the family and cause trouble”. Apparently that woman is me. This same psychic, on the same day, told me that Kelly and I will be together always and that “A woman would come into the relationship and cause trouble”. For so long there has been jovial banter about me representing one, and said person representing another. But truth me told I have never believed either are true.
It was actually a friend of my significant other who said the most amazing thing that I felt was the truth “You know that the ‘woman’ who will cause trouble on both sides is the psychic herself”
BANG! Snap! Not just a pretty face
I’ve always taken psychics with a pinch of salt. I go for a laugh. After all this happened Kelly decided to go and visit the same psychic who said the same thing to him… That we are meant to be together but someone will come in and cause trouble.
I want everything to be different, but I have to respect how he feels and back him up on how this is dealt with, whether I agree with his methods or not. I’m really worth the time and effort if given the oppurtunity to do so and Kelly is just gorgeous.
It’s been 18months (Or nearing now) since everything changed. I hope that one day we can put it all behind us. I will ALWAYS been here for ALL of you, whenever you need me.
For now, I just have to keep the mantra that Kelly says to me frequently “Hun, as long as it is me and you, then nothing else matters”
On a final note, we have the support of 99% of the people. We have incredible, beautiful and amazing people around us and I am so thankful for all of you.